Can't Cum with your mate = Dead Ejaculation (Retarded Ejaculation)

Masturbation, jacking off, choking the chicken, rubbing one out (what ever term you wish to use men) and for the ladies..we have our clit stimulation devices.  I enjoy the feeling when my man cums inside me, I feel his dick swell and then I can feel my pussy warm up even more from his hot sticky semen. I also like it when my man cums on my titties, ass or wherever it ends up landing. In my opinion the best feeling is when we are able to reach orgasm at the same time. What a phenomenal experience!  I was surprised by the topic of my conversation with a long-term female friend of mine.  We have been friends since our school playground days and have remained in contact through marriages, divorces, heartbreaks and children. Our conversation began with discussing our most recent events of life, you know.....the girl gossip!  The conversations that last for two or more hours.  I was happy to hear my girl (let's call her Lisa) Lisa was in a new fulfilling relationship.  I didn't like her husband when she married him, I always thought he had pent up frustrations.  However, she was happy at the time, so I did my best to be the supportive friend. 

After years of talking to someone, if you're an intuitive being like myself, you know when someone wants to talk about a "particular" topic.  I wasn't used to Lisa beating around the bush on anything, but this time she was.  I wasn't sure if it were due to embarrassment or just being uncomfortable with the topic itself.  She tells me her man is everything that she has always wanted.  He's supportive, he gets along with her children, the family likes him, he has a job and he's great in bed with the exception of not being able to cum.  Listen up! 1+1=2, but pussy + dick doesn't always mean cumming.  She then shared with me, that it had been several years since he had been in any sexual relationship.  Yep, a celibate grown man, that self-pleasured himself by masturbating to porn movies.  Well, she told me everything I needed to know. This is a topic for both men and women. For my single ladies or the ladies that don't want to give pussy to their man for whatever reason and you "sneak masturbate" with your bullet or another form of a clit stimulating device, when he leaves the house of hops into the shower.  You are desensitizing your clit.  When this happens, the only way you will be able to reach climax with another human being is to stop using the device for a period of time..or better yet incorporate it into your sexcapades with your mate.  Maybe it's just me, but I enjoy cumming on a dick.  Please don't misunderstand, I have my bullet and my other devices too, but I like it better when I explode on his dick.  It's sort of the same thing for men. If you are constantly watching porn material and pleasing yourself.  It can become rather difficult to skeet with your partner.  This can become an issue if you and your mate wish to conceive children one day, simply because no cum, means no babies. There are a couple of ways to correct this for both genders. Communicate with your mate your concerns.  If you feel uncomfortable discussing this topic with him or her, then you may want to reconsider your relationship.  I say this because, I strongly believe communication is the key to all relationship forms and if there is no communication, then honestly, there is no relationship.  Take your time with sex.  We all appreciate a quickie every now and then, but in this situation, I recommend to take your time explore your bodies with one another and take a break from the "fantasy sex" of porn materials.  This may not be corrected overnight, but in time.  If all the above fails, by all means seek professional help.  There are tons of Sex Therapists in your area.  There is nothing to be ashamed of.

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