"Nuff"

Nuff: An individuals personal tolerance level of bullshit!!!

I was 30 when a good friend of mine explained in detail along with examples of what the word "Nuff" meant. It's obviously a derivative of "Enough", yet it doesn't mean the same thing. If you refer back to the "Porcelain Doll Syndrome" blog, this may help you to become more patient with your friends actions or re-actions. Let's talk:

So you have a friend (doesn't matter if they are male or female) and they are in a one-sided relationship. Everyone but the person that is involved knows that the other un-supportive half is out in the streets doing whoever knows what...Including your friend. You may have seen this person out in society showing public displays of affection (PDA) with another individual and you may have even gone the extra mile to snap a quick photo for proof for your unsuspecting friend to see the truth. Yet, your disappointment returns when your friend finds several ways of defending their unfaithful mate (oh, that's his cousin, or oh that's her brother). I know that pisses you the fuck off and you can't understand why your friend has become so dumbfounded recently. This is a person that you may have at one point in your life thought to be a strong, wise and don't take bullshit from anyone type of individual. However, in their current situation they somehow became...well....dumb! That's how you would define it. The key sentence is "That's how YOU would define it." We have all said at least one time in our lives that "I've had enough". Ask yourself, when you said it, did you say it from your mouth or did you say it from your heart? I can't tell you how many times I've told myself and my girlfriends that I've had enough, my mouth said it proud and strong, but my heart didn't.

"Nuff" is Final!!! This means you have tried every avenue to resolve what issues you may have had with your mate, your work life, and other topics encountered with your personal life. It's when you basically say "fuck it!" Now understand, everyone's "Nuff" level is different than the next persons. That's why you allow yourself to get so bent out of shape when your friend doesn't do what YOU expect them to do. Let's use this for an example: You're out to dinner with a friend, the same meal is served. You proceed to sprinkle, salt, pepper, oregano or whatever spice that will make your meal more enjoyable and your friend decides against adding any type of spice or seasoning. You say to your friend "The food tastes bland." and your friend is happy with the way the food was placed in front of them by the waiter. Everyone is different. Please do not become discouraged by the actions or compulsive-like behavior that they are displaying. It may take a few months, a year, or in some cases it may take decades. Keep in mind once a person reaches their "Nuff", there will be nothing anyone can say or do to change their decision.

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